Who needs 4-leaf clovers when we have Gottman Institute’s self-love language to help us become lucky in self-love?! Danielle Jenkins, our Gottman certified therapist, shared with us how your love language in relationships, can also be your self-love language, improve your overall mental and physical well-being and lead you to a more balanced and fulfilling life.
Love Languages
🍀Physical Touch is defined as things that make your body feel good or focus on your physical well being. Examples include massages, soft blankets, working out, spa days, skincare routines or simply stretching. Try adding one of these a couple of times a week to give yourself some self-love.
🍀Acts of Service is defined as doing or arranging things for yourself that make you feel good. This can include therapy (oh hey!), acts of kindness, scheduling, cleaning or going out. Another act of service can be simply going to bed early. Many of us stay up late looking for some quiet alone time but then end up going to bed much later than originally planned. Deciding to go to bed early and feeling rested can be one of the ultimate acts of service to yourself.
🍀Receiving Gifts is defined as treating yourself by purchasing things that make you happy. It doesn’t have to be expensive trips or some other big indulgence (but totally CAN be!) Something as small as new fun-colored pens can make the workday better. Or stopping to pick up your favorite dessert can help brighten any day.
🍀Quality Time is defined as spending time alone and doing things you love. This can include hobbies, meditation, taking yourself to a nice lunch, or just relaxing. Spending time rewatching your favorite movie or listening to your favorite artist are other simple ways to sneak in this little self-love.
🍀Words of Affirmation is defined a giving yourself pep talks and encouraging yourself. Daily affirmations, positive self-talk, journaling and mantras can help achieve this. When practicing this love language, it helps to say the affirmations out loud, use the present tense, avoid highlighting any negatives, choose meaningful affirmations, repeat them and try to make a habit out of it. Try posting them throughout your house to remind you to practice this self-love.
4 leaf clovers and leprechauns are great and all but this month we are using these love languages to reach our own pot of gold!
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